Can U Emote

                                                                It's okay to CRY

 

 To live a healthy life you have to have a sound body sound thinking and a sound family after all everything starts and ends with the family but don forget above all you need to have a sound emotional balance too. Promising a child for a candy and later on denying it would naturally put the poor soul into tears. Let him do the crying till his mind cools down. This tune of the mind, if blocked, can explode elsewhere in the body. How many times have we heard the same old thing again and again from sensible friends and relatives to "get over it soon" when we experience the loss of someone or something? Any kind of loss be it disappointment, the ending of something, break-up with a partner and the death of someone close warrants proper grieving. We can't get over something quickly but needs time and can be done progressively. Moving on doesn't mean forgetting, nor does it mean shutting out from memory what has happened. It is not the burying of the past and carrying on with life, because it is humanly impossible to forget significant occurrences in one's life. What is significant for one need not be for another and of the most damaging ways to ask a person to 'move on' is to dilute the significance of the occurrence. But why do we always end up to square one with the same old lines asking others to move on. Is it because we are ill at ease with emotions and to most grief has been defined as a bad and negative emotion, well I don't see that in the dictionary. With such baseless ideas people tremble to emote and sharing bond breaks there and now it has become something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. It's not depression but sadness where people appraise their loss and comprehend the disadvantages that accrue. It's always better to cry out and express your anger so that things don get worse later on. Young people don't have an idea of what to do and fatefully end up lives thinking that's the only solution. People come up saying they just got so frustrated and don't want to live anymore amid all the chaos. They have to sit and grieve so that their inner feelings about the issue flows out and releases from them giving them space to think about a new solution that can be infused to tackle the problem rather than saying "I wanna end up ma life". So a person who brought pleasure to your life and who is no more may bring some barrenness for you. You'll miss her, be sentimental about the good times and reminisce about the bonds you shared. Unexpected separation like the death of a loved one can take some more time. Nudging them to some kind of physical activity is a good way to release tension. Learning to distinguish normal grief responses like sadness, pain, anger bouts of crying and a depressed mood will make things better in the long run. Well grieving is not a problem its good as long as it does not become depression, it retains the healthiest part of being human-being emoting.